I've been a coach for a long time.
After 20 something years of helping people make changes in their lives and transform, you would think that I'm really a master communicator. Well, 12 years ago I realized I sucked at communicating in my marriage. It was a rude awakening and I got to tell you this story. One day, my husband and I were arguing quite a lot and he couldn't understand me. I kept blaming him for not understanding me because he doesn't have the qualifications to understand mindset. He doesn't do the studying of personal development so therefore I thought I was better than him. When I offered to take him to this workshop in New York State at this yoga retreat for couples, spiritual counseling, he said yes and I thought, "Oh." I was so happy because here I am about to fix him. We went down, it was a three-day workshop, and the first day we walked in and there were these hundreds of boxes of Kleenexes on this table. I said to my husband, I said, "This is ridiculous. Who's going to need all that Kleenex? These poor people, they must be really, really bad off." Second day rolls around and I'm losing my cool. I start realizing I'm the one with the listening problems. I talk too much. Every time there was a moment of silence I didn't realize that he needs that silent time to process things, whereas I could roll on like a hamster. I was really losing it because I was the one looking stupid. I had no idea. A few times he had to call the facilitators. So embarrassing. He had to call the facilitators to come and calm me down because I didn't know how to calm myself down, I was taking tantrums. Lo and behold, we were leaving and I thought to myself, "Oh my gosh, I'm the one that needed to be fixed." Full gratitude, I took ownership of the ego that I was living with. My name is Susan Hum and over the last 12 years, I've really learned so much from that experience. I really learned how to be present, how to embrace silence and to allow that silence to keep going so that I can actually think and listen. I can help you with that. It will help with all your relationships. It will help you master the influence of anyone in your life and be able to really help people in the right way, help people with what they need, not what we think they need.
I can get you that really quickly with a lot of clarity, so I can't wait to talk to you.